Wedded bliss..

[djrafikie]

Well, soon anyway, myself and my beloved o/h are planning on a formalisation of our relationship sometime next year, we've decided thats right for us, speshully with wee one and the house! I'm pagan, and he's agnostic.. I'm not fussy about having any reference to my faith in the cremony, paganism does'nt require that anyway...
But...
Any suggestions for the vows/format or the ceremony/afterparty?..
I want it to be classy and understated, but there are muslims, christians, catholics and many other denominations coming, so It should be solemn and romantic, without any particular adherance to any tradition.. purely because thats not how we are, and we also want to honour our backgrounds, and everything we have learnt from being lucky enough to be raised in such a culturally diverse family/s.

[Xev]

Check here for links on who might do the ceremony for you, unless you've already got that covered.

http://www.iidb.org/vbb/showthread.php?t=180557

I get married next Saturday. We're just inviting a few friends, then going to dinner afterwards. It sounds like you have more guests, but I imagine having a secular type wedding would suit most people there. I guess you're trying to make sure they're all comfortable, which is cool. Also, I think if you honored both your cultures there, most people would appreciate something like that. IMO, it's your day, so do it how you want. We have so many religious family members and friends, we just thought it was easier to do it our way and not invite them. Oh, and we're cheap...I mean frugal (trying to save for a house). Maybe if you'll get some ideas from this thread, or from talking to someone from a humanist/secular organization in your area.

[Thanatoast]

Do it in the nude.

[hclincha]

And post pics

[djrafikie]

Do it in the nude.

my dads a naturist and raised me that way, the idea of getting married butt-skis on some lovely autralian beach and only inviting a few people is being bandied about, but it would really annoy most of both of our families!
We would like more people to be there.....
I'm pretty keen on a deep green wedding dress, no frills, very simple.... but havent got much further than that yet .

[djrafikie]

oh oh oh! and it MUST be corseted.

[Thanatoast]

I'm pretty keen on a deep green wedding dress, no frills, very simple.... but havent got much further than that yet .But not a real green dress, that's cruel. :p

Seriously, I like the corset idea. Corsets are teh sexy.

[djrafikie]

totally, and I don't have to worry about eating buffet food until I'm bloated!

[RAFH]

We did a traditional Hawaiian ceremony. Outdoors on the beach. Complete with a traditional Hawaiian kahuna (1000 year family history of being kahunas) and a 500 year old sacred tapa cloth, an interesting leather cord we braided and a banana. That last had the wife a bit nervous. Not quite sure what we agreed to, though actually we really didn't say anything. We braided the leather cord, three strands representing the umbilical cords of us two and that which connects all the people of the world, binding us together and with the world. The kahuna chanted, handed me the banana to peel while he chanted some more and gave it back and he gave it to her, chanted a bit and took it back. That was about it. It was legal too, Butch Helemano is licensed as a kahuna with the state. It was fun and interesting and we felt it was right for us living here.

[The Reformer]

And kahuna translates into?

[TerriNPA]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kahuna

[djrafikie]

thats sounds really sweet! Great in the divorce courts.. "WHEN YOU PROMISED TO KOKAH ME PAH DESSA DES!"

...what does that mean?

"I don't know but you shure as hell DID'NT DO IT YOU B*STARD!"